I'm surprised and saddened to hear my farm, my friends, my son, and even the dog described in glowing terms but myself as a power struggling belittler. I can only imagine that this is because when you asked me if you could cook for free in my kitchen, I told you I'd prefer to have you buy meals from Gina for $5/ plate. Having guests use my kitchen is not our policy. I tried, however, to treat you with love and kindness: giving you free trips to town, enquiring about your travel plans and advising you on where to exchange money, etc., inviting you to spend as much time as you liked in my kitchen, including attending a birthday party for a friend at which I gave you homemade coconut cake. Finally, when you left a day early, I spent a long time figuring out how to return the $15 to you on this site, and I left a kind review of you describing you as a nice young couple who didn't give hosts any problems. Anyway, so sorry that you drained away your energy, Tristan, on a power struggle you were having with someone who didn't even know we were engaged in one, and invited you into her home with kindness.